Psychotalk with Dr Shruti

  Instagram made us want to escape to the mountains. But who is going to save the mountains from us? A reel shows a misty mountain road, a quiet village, a temple surrounded by forests, a “peaceful” café overlooking the valley. Millions of us watch it. Then suddenly, everyone wants to go there, stay there, build there, or shift there. We call it “living close to nature.” But increasingly, we are consuming nature rather than living with it. The mountains were never meant to accommodate unlimited tourism . Forests are cleared for roads, hotels, homestays, parking lots and commercial construction. Mountains are cut and blasted to widen roads and create buildings, weakening natural slopes. Plastic bottles, food packaging, disposable plates, religious offerings and other waste accumulate around trekking routes, rivers and pilgrimage sites. Thousands of vehicles bring traffic, air pollution, noise and constant disturbance to fragile ecosystems. Tourism puts enormous pressure on local wa...

  Recently, I came across an old photograph of myself. For a few moments, I simply looked at it. And strangely, it felt as though I was looking at a girl I knew very well. She looked so young. So carefree. So unaware of how quickly life would move. And now the grey strands growing quietly through my hair make me look surprisingly mature now. There was a time when I would have wanted to hide them. Today, they feel more like little reminders of everything I have lived through. There was a day when I was running around my childhood home without ever wondering where the years would go. And now, I sit quietly on my couch, sometimes wondering where all those years disappeared. My face has changed. My priorities have changed. My body has slowed down. The mirror reveals the dark circles, the fine lines, the tiredness that I sometimes wish I could erase. My hair reveals the years I would rather keep hidden. But there is something the mirror cannot show. It cannot show how much stronger I ha...

मैं फन्ना… शमा बुझ गई परवाने के जल जाने से, और हम अंधेरे से शिकवा कर बैठे.. मद्धम रोशनी से रात कट तो रही थी, हवा की दुश्मनी से ख़ुद को जला बैठे .. परवाना दूर ही रहता, ख़ुद जलने चला,  आरज़ू दबा कर रखता, अगर मचलता नहीं.. मौत का ख़ौफ़ किसे , इश्क़ में बर्बाद हो चला, कहता, रूह से बँधा हूँ बदन से नहीं ..  शमा का क्या है फिर से रौशन हो जाएगी, हवा का रुख़ कोई और परवाना मोड़ लाएगी.. समझाया उसे, मजबूर ना हो किसी के फुसलाने से, पर अधूरी ख्वाहिश फिर से तलब जगाएगी.. तू फ़न्ना होना चाहता है अपनी मुहब्बत पर, परवाने पर ज़माने को हमदर्दी नहीं.. सुलग कर राख होने को तैयार है, तमाशा बन जाएगा, नादान तेरे चिराग़ को तुझसे वफ़ा ही नहीं ..  - श्रुति

30% of abused children become abusive parents. Children from divorced families are 2-3 times more likely to divorce themselves. If you were never allowed to express yourself as a child, chances are you won't be able to understand the expression of your children. We mirror the emotions all our lives. Silent treatments given to each other as parents are noticed and absorbed by children only to later on mimic and deliver the same reaction to our partners. The term broken family carries weight that extends far beyond divorce statistics or single parent households. A family where love, emotional safety, and healthy communication is fractured leaves its members to navigate relationships without the foundational tools they need. To name a few, trust issues, emotional dysregulation, unhealthy relationship patterns, selfless struggles, and many more. Create a ripple effect. It creates a ripple effect that don't just affect the immediate members but impacts through generations and commu...

Where do I search for ? O’ Mahadev,  In this vast, trembling world I wander, Searching for a love like yours- The fire of Parvati’s devotion,  An ocean of surrender that cures.. But here, love is weighed on scales, Measured in coins of want and gains, A barter of fleeting desires, A marketplace of skin buyers.. Where is the grace of union, The silence that sings of trust? Where is the love that bends ego, That sails another weakest ? O’ lord of Kailash,  My eyes are thirsty for the nectar, For the sacred flame of tenderness,  Thy this world of yours is no more protector.. Yet I sit in sorrow at your feet,  Mourning the poverty of love in this world, Yearning where two souls dissolve into one, A divine bond that even time bows before.. https://www.instagram.com/psychotalk_with_drshruti?igsh=d2UwaGxoNHJhMjU4&utm_source=qr https://youtube.com/@drshrutinabriya?si=Jzyx2i0gxlWxHzKP

The Harsh Truth We Never Saw Coming Harsh truths don’t arrive gently. They crash like a wave you didn’t see forming — quiet at first, then suddenly pulling you under. It’s the moment your illusions break. What you thought was solid becomes shaky.The person you trusted, the belief you held, the hope you nurtured — all feel like strangers. The truth doesn’t knock. It enters when it wants.And when you’re not ready, it feels like betrayal by reality itself. You feel disoriented. Grieving something you can’t name.Your body tenses. Your chest is heavy. You replay the past over and over, asking: How did I not see it? But here’s what’s rarely said : That moment of devastation is also the beginning of clarity. Raw, painful, unfiltered clarity.It doesn’t heal you immediately, but it starts something honest inside you.And though it hurts, you begin to see:The truth didn’t come to destroy you.It came to free you. Coping with a harsh truth — especially one you weren’t ready to face — takes both ten...

THE “NOISE” WITHIN The voices in my head that never really go silent. Some whisper doubts, others shout regrets. They carry the weight of my past, the anxiety of my future, and the confusion of the present. At times, they argue with each other; one pulling me towards healing, the other drowning me in fear. Some voices sound like people I’ve lost, some like the parts of me I’ve tried to forget. They remind me of mistakes, of what I should have said, of what I should never have done. And yet, amidst this chaos, there’s always a softer voice trying to break through; one that says I’m still here, still trying, still worthy. It’s not madness. It’s just me, unfolding. I am slowly unfolding myself, layer by layer, like pages of a story I never had the courage to read. Each emotion, each memory, each scar.  It reveals a part of me I once hid to protect my softness. It’s not easy to meet your own truths, to face the versions of you that you abandoned just to be accepted or loved. But I’ve r...

Raising siblings with love is a parenting skill. Two siblings can either be best of friends or the worst enemies. Making your children support each other and develop a strong bond requires nurture from parents. Children observe the mutual support amongst other family members. It always starts with conscious parenting. Give them environment that teaches empathy and compassion.  It starts with understanding child development and psychology. The early childhood experience and birth order plays a key role in shaping their mindset. Elder child is seen to have dictatorship and are responsible whereas the younger sibling is a peace maker of the home and pampered. If parents learn the behaviour based on birth order they will be skilled to navigate their parenting style. Based on Albert Bandura (American psychologist) theories, he states that children learn by modelling family members and parents. If they see you talking with each other respectfully and kindly they learn to inculcate that i...

Not everything can be figured out, not every question needs an answer, not every-time you can pretend to be happy and strong all the time.  You are allowed to have bad days. Being vulnerable is not weakness to hide your emotions.  Acknowledging when you’re not okay is the first step toward getting better. Healing is not always instant like a 2 min Maggi noodle. It’s a slow process which gradually opens doors to self compassion and growth. Healing takes time because it’s just not about fixing what’s broken; it’s about understanding and adapting to what hurt you. Pain, grief or trauma doesn’t fade with single decision. It needs space to felt, understood and processed.  As your body and mind repair, you learn. Letting go of the things that once defined you helps you rebuilt trust and reshaping new identity.  Healing takes time because you are becoming whole again.  “Not every day is meant to be conquered — some are meant to be survived. Follow me : https://youtube....

Empaths work on a completely  different frequency from the rest of the world. They are the people with heightened ability to sense and feel the emotions and energies of others. what do they really know than the rest of us ? Emotional transmutation : they can transform negative emotional energy around them into calm or healing energy. Hightened self awareness : Thrpugh understanding their own feelings first and mindfulness they develop phenomenal emotional intelligence Deep listening skills : They not only tune in to your words but also the facial expressions and body language. Nature lovers : They spend time in nature and environment to get into that vibe of higher vivbration to sharpen their senses. Non judgemental : they understand the reasons behind others behaviour with compassion Healthy boundaries: They have a shield around them to protect themselves emotionally. Know to say “no”. Recognise limits. Creative : lovers of art, writing and music to express emotions follow me...

When things fall apart, you look for something familiar. Someone you know. Someone you have touched. Even if it’s gone forever. But gradually you learn to make peace with the present. Even if that peace is not fully grown inside you. Even if you are hiding the turmoil inside with a smiling face. Life makes you swallow truth. Just swallow in silence. Never speak about heartbreak or exhaustion from drama. Slowly you discover to protect your peace, more than pain. There is not always a grand reconciliation. Sometimes you let go in silence. No arguments. No harsh Good byes. Just clarity. Even if clarity hurts you more than chaos. Follow me on : Instagram👇🏻@psychotalk_with_drshruti https://www.instagram.com/psychotalk_with_drshruti?igsh=d2UwaGxoNHJhMjU4&utm_source=qr Like,subscribe and share on youtube at : https://youtube.com/@drshrutinabriya?si=Jzyx2i0gxlWxHzKP

स्याही.. लिखो, मिटाओ; फिर लिखो, फिर मिटाओ; कोरे पन्नों को स्याही से भरते चले जाओ, मन कुछ हल्का हो तो उँड़ेलो काग़ज़ पर, क़िस्सा ख़त्म हो तो, मरोड़ो नज़्मो पर.. दर्द लिखने से कम होते नहीं बढ़ते चले जाते हैं, पुराने ज़ख़्म फिर से उभरते नज़र आते हैं.. पीछे पलट कर देखूँ, तो अल्फ़ाज़ मिले रद्दी के ढेर में, बिकते मिले जज़्बात बाज़ारों की भीड़ में.. गलती हुई जो किरदारों को वफ़ादार समझ बैठे, भूल हुई , हम किस्से को कहानी समझ बैठे.. डॉ श्रुति नाबरिया 

When someone is talking to you, you listen closely, but if we miss out something, we ask the person to repeat it more slowly. This paraphrase makes us understand and process information more properly. If you become distracted. During the conversations we try to get in contact with people in quiet environment. Example when we meet someone in a restaurant, we try to sit and book a table near the wall, if the companion sets against the wall and visit facing them, we focus on them without our attention, wander anywhere else, so hence we can improve our ability to focus on a task and screen out distractions. If you do only one thing at a time, so we should try to avoid interruptions. So here are the few techniques through which we cannot only remember the information, but also retain them in our brains. • Remembering things in sequence : it involves imagining the data or the information in a sequence and visualising back-and-forth towards the information in sequence. For instance, if you a...

Why partners/people have become so abusive to the extent of killing each other ? Ofcourse it is a form of mental illness and the person is a sociopath. People these days have lost the threshold and have grown to become increasingly verbally, emotionally, physically and sexually abusive towards the other. Most of the times there have been found a history of child abuse in the form of emotional or physical form. Nowadays abuse has become the new common trend to justify the accused feelings. I would fail to speak on everyone's behalf but I'll put forth my understanding. It is very important to recognise the early signs of violence in the other person. Violence doesn't emerge suddenly but it escalates gradually over the time. Small acts of boundary violation such as gaslighting, threatening, black mailing, breaking things etc shouldn't go unnoticed. 1.They would also emotionally isolate you, so it is important to recognise if you notice any signs of pent up anger. ...